A lifetime on Earth is a wild ride for the spirit inside us, especially in the area of romance and sex.
Our ethereal self is motivated by love and trust, and it resides in a formless universe that’s like a vast sea of boundless love and wisdom.
As those subtle motivations waft from our ethereal depths upward, outward toward our conscious mind, our noble-savage outer shell—the physical body—dilutes them with a heavy dose of suspicion, fear, and lust, allowing our narrow, earthy mind to help us not only to survive the dramas unfolding endlessly on this noble-savage Earth, but to enjoy them.
As an ethereal being our greatest desire is to be of service to others and to the grand plan, and when we unite with other light beings, our essences merge and are shared intimately with one another. We immediately know each other’s most radiant thoughts and warmest motivations. Life is smooth, blissful sailing for the ethereal spirit within us.
But as a physical being we’re guided largely by our hormones as we react to the dramas unfolding around us constantly. With our turned-on physical bodies (as opposed to switched-off during meditation) the closest we can come to ethereal union… is having sex with a partner.
Life on Earth is a roller coaster, especially when it comes to romance and sex. Like any wild ride, it helps to know how best to enjoy it safely… when to get off… how to get off… and, in the case of romance, with whom to “get off.”
Enjoying the Ride and Getting Off
Our romantic lives and sex lives are guided largely by our hormones within the constraints of society’s norms. We know the drill, since we’ve nearly all been through it personally, and we’ve certainly experienced it in endless books, movies, and love songs.
Adolescence. Our hormones rage through adolescence. We become preoccupied with a certain someone, and we want to get inside their mind, maybe inside their circle of friends… and certainly inside their clothes.
For teenagers, following the carnal cravings freely can cause problems ranging from damaged reputations to teen pregnancies to venereal diseases.
For society, sexual freedom among adolescents would quickly lead to pandemonium. We’d all spend our formative years learning more under the bleachers than in the classrooms.
So society provides restraints—family values, church definitions of “sin,” school dress codes, government laws pertaining to minors… that sort of thing.
Adulthood. By our early twenties, most of us have been indoctrinated into society’s code of sexual rights and wrongs, and we’ve probably had some hard knocks along the way (broken heart, peer pressure, feelings of guilt and shame, unrequited love, groundings….), so by now we approach relationships with some care and discernment.
We begin to get a sense of the long-term benefits of a committed relationship, and we might start thinking about marriage. Once a young man and young woman feel safe in a good, stable relationship, they’re more inclined to explore their carnal desires with less shame and shyness. Puppy love longings make way for the things that grown-ups do… which usually includes having kids and raising families… and the cycle starts all over again with the new litter.
Through the years, as our bodies roll around in ecstasy, the spirit within us rolls its eyes. As we bump and grind our way through life, our ethereal self waits for the carnal urges to give way to more refined expressions of self… which usually come with age.
Golden years. In our later years, as our hormones begin to subside, our inner wild animal begins to retreat as our calm spirit begins to rock more contentedly on the back porch. By the sixties (or in some cases seventies or eighties or…), sex and romance and other dramas aren’t as important as a nice walk on the beach or reminiscences with our soul mate… or even a good bowel movement in some cases, or so I’ve heard.
My friend Gene Standing Bear once told me that most of the great Lakota warriors who fought bravely and touched many enemies and kneeled to no one, eventually became gentle elders of the tribe—mentoring children, mediating among the cocky young men, and conferring with other elders on sweeping decisions to assure peace and plenty for the tribe.
Hindus go through four stages of life:
- The student begins to learn the ways of the world,
- Householders (husband and wife) start a family and raise their children,
- Retired couples relinquish most of their responsibilities to start lining the nest for their afterlife home, and
- The wandering ascetic leaves his home, family and friends, signifying a final detachment from the physical world and readiness to enter spirit.
That seems to be a natural course in all cultures: Young men and women work themselves into a lather, rolling around together, making babies, and raising families… and then they relax and enjoy the finer things in life… thinking about a nobler purpose of living, especially their paradise destiny once they leave the Earth behind.
From a modern perspective of science and medicine, our senior retreat from romance and sex is mostly the result of hormones.
But I can safely say that hormones may feel powerful, but they really pale beside the spiritual forces streaming through us at all levels of our being.
Our purpose on Earth is to help usher in the grand plan—restoring paradise on Earth—and to do that we have to find ways to bring the love and trust, wisdom and knowledge inherent in our finer spirit, out into this world.
We can contend with our hormonal dramas in such a way that our physical body-mind can become a conduit or vehicle of our ethereal consciousness.
In the course of a lifetime we first relearn the nature of this noble-savage world by getting immersed in it—hormones and all—and then later we can bring forth our divine nature to help tame the world… once we have tamed ourself.
In other words, we come to Earth to enjoy the wild ride and then, at the right time, to get off. And then, once we get off, however and whenever it feels right for us, then at last it’s time to fulfill our spiritual purpose here on Earth as best we can.
By the time we die, hopefully we’ve detached enough from the drama to make a smooth transition to our paradise adventure in the astral realm. Too much drama carried over into the next world can retard our spiritual progress… the subject of the next article.
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